Balancing Business And A Boo
I am frequently asked how I manage to maintain all of my passion projects while being in a very serious relationship and it really should come to no surprise that being an entrepreneur comes with a lot of sacrifices.
I always say that my relationship is all my karma and a large part of why I feel like that is because I have an incredibly patient partner. As you continue to get to know Shelby Sides, you are sure to discover that I am a passionate person and with that leads to a rabbit hole of projects that I spend a large chunk of my energy towards. And without the wild amount of love and support that Micah pours into me on a daily basis, I don’t think I would be as confident in putting myself out there creatively. Between writing, mentoring, and building I feel like all my hours are dedicated to planting seeds of success and I won’t lie there are times that I have felt guilty for not giving more of myself to the person who has been unconditionally cheering me on for the larger part of a decade.
For those asking how I manage to balance both my business as an entrepreneur and relationship with my boo, I am here to tell you that it has taken some time and a lot of growth. The frank truth is that you make time for what is important to you, so if both a successful business and thriving relationship is something that holds significance - you make it work.
Communication is everything. I can’t tell you how many arguments Micah and I have had (and sometimes still do have). No relationship is perfect even though the large majority would like to think so and it has come with a lot of hard conversations. In the midst of graduating, moving home, and buying a house together a lot has happened in the last two years and there has been a learning curve that has come with adjusting to becoming full-fledged adults. Whether it is not helping around with day-to-day activities or simply spending time together, a lot of normal relationship issues come up in our discussions and it has taken some time to learn how to really work together.
So what have we learned that helps?
Dedicated 24 Hours
Between Micah’s work hours and my growingly busy schedule, there are a few days when we really only see each other in the early morning moments while getting ready for the day and saying goodnight. Lately as I have been planning for the upcoming week, I work in 24 hours that we can spend together beyond the off moments we have during the week. Sometimes it is a full day but more often than not it is large portions of the weekend and for right now, it has been working for us.
Keeping In Touch
While I am not personally huge on talking on the phone thanks to my days working at a call center, we make it a point to talk to each other on our commutes and when there is downtime apart. And making sure that the personal interactions throughout the day aren’t just transactional as it would be in a business but conversational. Instead of just sharing what your plans are, the occasional “thinking of you” or “I miss you” can be greatly appreciated.
I am not always the best at texting (which is almost ironic because my “office” is my phone) and checking in when we aren’t together is one of those things that I am currently working on.
Put The Phones Away
In this day an age, it can be hard to put your phone down. We can discuss the pros and cons of technology but for me personally, the pros significantly outweigh the cons. I primarily operate both my business and other passion projects from my phone, so 9 times out of 10 it is readily available in my hand. At the end of the day, this sleek piece of tech is a double-edged sword, and we make it a point to put it away (read: not down, away) during dinner dates along with a number of activities that we do together. Recently, we have been integrating time each night where we turn off all devices, put on some music, and work out some Sudoku puzzles together before heading to bed.
And this is a habit that goes beyond my relationship into my friendships and family relations. Time is so precious and enjoying what is currently happening in the present is something that I truly value.
There are times we fall back on habits and develop routines that aren’t necessarily beneficial, so we hit a reset button. It can be as simple as explaining that the tone or wording that the other is using could be better and giving the option to restart the conversation. Or it can lead to a more in depth chat about what happened and what we both could do better. Either way, we are communicating and reflecting on different parts of our relationship to make sure that both parties feel heard, supported, and most of all loved.
So all this means we have everything in our relationship figured out, right? As much as we would like to believe we got this whole partner thing down we are both work in progresses, which means that our relationship is too. Whether it is a business or a boo, nothing worth having is easy. And there have been a number of times when both these aspects of my life have had me in tears, wanting to pull my hair out but both have created who I am today
How do you balance your relationship and passions?
Until next time, tah.